Ladies used to eat with gloves so sandwich they used to eat sandwiches rolled like Swiss rolls so as not to make a mess

Women only only later would a man come along, children present was uncial but an older child would serve and pass around

It was always a man world in coffee houses and they stayed later and later so afternoon tea was to fill the gap whilst waiting

Caddy comes from cati – a measuring unit of tea 
They scooped from a shell taken from the seashores so the spoon was designed around

The duchess would have taken the key from her waistband so servants could not steel as theydrank ale then

Servant would serve hot water into teapots and another warm tea pot on the side
Servant would then decant into a sieve like spoon 

Take the pot to the kettle not the kettle tithe pot

Tea used to be serves in a bowl and the ladies would balance the hot bowl with their pinkie
6 I clock with the thumb and 12 with the finger
Milk was poured first ad a coolant against the fine bone china

She believes that may be why gloves were kept on also however not mentioned

Stir from 6-12
Never in a circle!!
They would have commented on it

Tea was taken up in ladies boudoir to start in sneaking the food
Then realising how lovely it was, took it to their lounge and drawing rooms and then to the tea gardens or pleasure gardens outside of London 
1860s onwards
Heated rotanda. And 
Thetraditiom then evolved

They weren’t allowed to touch any of the things on alastairs table

He Said sounds like a social nightmare

They then ventured into gardens to get out of house and do the ritz etc